Njengoko ubudala bukhula, abantu bobabini besiamkela i-adjustment yomjikelo wokukhula, abesilisa nabesifazane bahlala behlangabezana nezinguquko ezithile kwezomzimba nakwezengqondo. Ngesikhathi esibalulekile sokuphila, ukuphathwa kobudlelwano obuseduze kanye nempilo yezehlakalo kungathinteka kakhulu, futhi i-aphya yocansi ingaba yinkinga enkulu kubantu abaningi. Ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga, indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinile nezilwane zikhona njengendlela entsha yokwakha ubudlelwano obuseduze, enguquko okwamanje ithathwa njengekhono eliphawulekayo. Le ncwadi izofaka incazelo ephelele yokwenziwa kokuphazamiseka kwe-aphya yocansi ebangelwa uhlelo lokukhula, imithelela yezemizimba nezehlakalo, ukuzivikeleka, nezixazululo ezingezona ezokwelapha ukuya kwezokwelapha.
1. I-Menoapause kanye Nokwakhiwa Kwempilo Engokwengqondo
I-menoapause iyisigaba esivamile sokuphila okungase kudlule abesilisa nabesifazane, abesifazane benza lokhu ngaphakathi kweminyaka engu-45 kuya ku-55, kanti wonke umuntu ubhekana nezimpawu ezihlobene ne-'menopausal syndrome' ngo-50. Abesifazane bephinda bahlushwa izihloko ezifana ne-hot flashes, ukujulukisa, ukufiphala kwemizwa, ukuhwamuka, kanye nokufiphala komjovu. Abesilisa bangaba nezinkinga ezinjengokuncipha kwe-testosterone, kube ne-'sexual desire', ukucindezeleka, kanye nokukhubazeka kokufika. Lezi zinguquko zomzimba zinciphisa ukuzethemba nobudlelwano bezocansi phakathi kwabantu bobabili, isikhathi esiningi kuzodingeka kube nomqondo wobukhosi ngemikhuba empilweni engokomoya, okwenza kube ne-Cycle of Confusion.
Bese kudingeka ukwazisa lo budlelwane ngalesi sikhathi samanje. Impilo yezocansi akusona nje isimo sokusebenza kwemisebenzi yezocansi kodwa ibandakanya nokuxhumana kwemizwa phakathi kwezithandani.
2. Ukuhlaziywa Kwezizathu Zokuphazamiseka Kokufika
I-aphya yocansi (dyspareunia) iyinkinga evamile phakathi kwabantu besifazane abahlangabezana ne-menoapause, kodwa abesilisa bangase baphazamiseke ngenxa yezinkinga zokusindisa, izinkinga zokuphefumula, noma ukucindezeleka okunomthelela empilweni yabo. I-aphya yocansi kubantu besifazane iqukethe inkinga yokufiphala kanye nokukhubazeka kwezinga lesikhumba, okuvumela i-friction during sexual intercourse. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuphazamiseka kokuphila nakhu kungakha izehlakalo eziphathelene neminye imikhuba.
Abesilisa bangathola izinkinga njenge prostatitis, semen vesiculitis noma ama-chronic pelvic pain syndromes, okwakha izinkinga emhlabeni wobudlelwane.
Ngaphezu kwezizathu zomzimba, umthwalo wezengqondo udlale indima enkulu ekukhuleni kwe-aphya. Ukuphephuka kokwakhiwa kwempilo yokuzithiba, ukuncipha kokuzicabangela, izinkinga zokuxhumana phakathi kwezithandani kungaba yizizathu ezithumbela ekucindINI, okwenza kube ne-Cycle of Suffering.
3. Ukucebisa Budlelwane Nezilwane Kuzokwakha Umoya Obusha Ekuhlangabezaneni
Muva nje, izifundo eziningi ziqinisekisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwezilwane nezinsiza zempilo. Kubantu besifazane nabesilisa behlanganyela kulezi zikhathi zika-menoapause, ubuqotho bokuhlala nezilwane zezinkanyezi akukhona nje ukusiza ngokuqinisa ubudlelwane, kodwa kulula ukususa imikhuba yokucindezela, kube neminye imiphumela enhle eqondile.
1. Izilwane njengenhloso yokusekela Emtsematsakayo
Ukuxhumana nezilwane kukhipha izifundo ze-oxytocin, le "hormone ye-love" ithinta eziphathelene nokukhulula izinkinga, ukufaka isibindi, futhi abadala bavame ukujabula lapho befaka igunya kulolu hlobo lwezithombe.
2. Ukudala Imiphakathi Eyengeziwe Ukukhuluma
Izilwane zibamba iziqhamuka eziphuta phakathi kwezitho lokuhlanganyela, zenzela ibhizinisi kubalingani. Lokhu ngokubambisana, kufaka zonke izimo ezibalulekile zomoya, kugqugquzela ukwethembana.
3. Ukuqinisa Ubuqotho Bokuthinta
Ukwelashwa kwezilwane kusho ukujwayela ukuxhumana obuzonakekelwa, kubenza abe munye nemikhuba ethinta izinsuku ezinzima.
4. Izixazululo Ezilula Nezindlela Zokuzivikela
Abasakazeki be-menoapause bephila ngezinkinga zocansi, kubalulekile ukuziqinisela ukuvika ukukhathazeka, noguquko olufanele emphakathini.
1. Ulwazi Lokugcina Ukuthula Esikhathini Esifitshane Ngezinsuku
Kukhona izindlela zokwakha phakathi komzimba nokungena ezinjengokuhlanza okuphambukisayo, ukwelashwa, kanye nezilwanyana ezihlukene ezifanele ukubhekelwa.
2. Ukudala Isimo Semvelo Ehlanzekile
Ukuthola izithako ezinhle ezifana nokukhanya kwempilo, izimiso zenhlanzeko, kupa okudlangile, nemithi ethambile.
3. UkuseNgeni Kwezinsizakusebenza Zama-Organizational
Ukuvasele amagxolo ezithinta abesifazane nabesilisa ezinhlotsheni zokuthola impumelelo.
Lokhu kuzokhulisa ukwaziswa nokusebenza kwempilo kuzo zonke izinqubo ezibalulekile ze-menoapause, sebenzisa izindlela ezinqunywe ngempumelelo ukuze ufake i-oxytocin yokukhuthaza, lokho kuzokwenza umehluko omkhulu.
4. Ukuqonda Kwesikhathi Sokuqala Nezinto Zokuthuthukisa
Izifundo, ukufunda, nemikhuba yokudla enempilo zizoshada ukuguquguquka kwemfundo ezithinta ubudlelwane.
Ngokubambisana, kushiya umkhuba wokuphila, ubudlelwane bokuthinta ...
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