Ulawulo lweemotiyo kunye nokukhula kwengqondo: Ukunceda ukufunyanwa kokukhulula iimvakalelo ezimbi ngokukhulisa ubudlelwane nezilwanyana ezinobudlelwane nokunceda.
Ukwamkela: Iingxaki zomzimba kunye nengqondo phantsi kokuxinakwa kweminyaka emininzi
Uxanduva, ngoyaba, indoda okanye umfazi, ubuchule bokuphila buyehluka ngokwenene. Abafazi bangase bamele iimeko ezinjengokuxhalaba, ukungathandeki, ukudinwa, nokukhwankqa kwiiyears ezithile emva kokuphela kwemvumi, ezi zinto zinxulumene ngqo nokwehla okukhulu kweestrogen kunye neprogesterone. Uxanduva lwabafana luthetha iimeko ezimbi ngenxa yokwehla kwe-testosterone, ukugxila kwezinto, okukhokelela ekudakeni, kuphahluka, ukungazithetheli kwaye nezinye iimvakalelo ezingezizo. Le mikhwa ithinta ukukhula kwengqondo yomntu, ubudlelwane kwaye ibangele imfuno yokuphila. Ukuphosa okungakumbi kunokwandisa ukungaphumli, umphunga oqhubekayo, kunye nokunciphisa amandla omzimba, kudala umjikelo ombi. Le mqulu izakuhlola ukungabikho kwemvakalelo kwintsimi yeemotiyo, kuba qonda indlela yokusebenzisa ubudlelwane bokugcina izilwanyana kunye neengcebiso zokunceda ukuphumeza ukulawula iimvakalelo ezimbi, kunye nokubonelela ngezisombululo ezicacileyo, ezingxamisekiyo, ezihlelekayo zokusasaza.
I. Ingxaki eyenziwe kwiimotiyo zokuvuka
1. Iihomoni ezinyukayo zenza umgca wemithambo weemvakalelo
Ukuncitshiswa kweestrogen kumafazi kuphucula ukuhamba kwegazi lebhayoloji, iinkqubo zokuqhuba iimvakalelo zomzimba ziqhuba ibhulurhu, iendorphins, i-catecholamines nezinye izinto ukuze iimeko zithathe imeko yokuphucuka okukhulu, ukufanisa, kunye nemiqobo yemibono engalunganga. Kukho iimeko ezinzima phakathi kwe-42 kunye ne-55, i-testosterone iyancipha, i-cortisol iyahluka, oku kuhamba kwehopa ngee-commands ezinzima kumzimba, kungenza kube kuthe xhaxhe ukumxokozela otengisa okanye ugwetywa umoya.
2. Iingxaki zokulala kunye nokuphuma phantsi kokuqhubekeka kweemvakalelo ezimbi
Ixesha lokukhathaza, ubushushu begazi, ukuchama rhoqo kudala ubuncinci bokuhlala. Ukuncinana komzimba kuphucula ikakhulu umxholo, yoqobo kwaye kubangelwa kuzo zonke izigqibo eziphikisana - ubungqina besayensi bukhumbuza ukuba abantu abakhathazekanga kwiimeko zomzimba banokukhumbula imiba eyingozi eyaziwa njengo60%.
3. Ukutshintsha kumphakathi kube nomphumela wokungathandeki
Umphefumlo olwenziwa ngexesha lemidla, njengokuphela kwemisebenzi, utshintsho kwiinkonzo zezeemali, imfuno yokwakha indawo ngexesha lakho, umphumo wombono, ngokubambisana nomphakathi ukuba unomona ozwilayo, kwaye ubhangqwe azikho izimfuno zokuphila, ukuze unokukhala ngendlela engalunganga.
4. Ukungabi neenkxaso zomphakathi
Abanye abantu abaphumelelanga bahlala bewumqondiso wokuphosa phakathi kwezikhumbuzo zabo, nomanyano nemali, imfuno yesikhumbuzo ivela kolu lolwanjini. Le mikhwa ibalula ukunciphisa iimvakalelo ezimbi kumphakamo, ibenzisa umoya wokukhulisa indlela yokuphila.
II. Ubudlelwane bezilwanyana kumphakathi wengqondo kunye neendlela zasempilweni
1. Iziphumo zokunceda kwezilwanyana kumphakamo wezorhwebo kunye nezempilo
Ngokophando lokufunda, ukusebenzisana nemigqa enobudlelwane bezilwanyana, umphakathi udlala indima yokukhipha iimvakalelo, ukunciphisa umoya wokukhathazeka. I-noona yokuxhathisa i-microbe's orchestra ivela kwi-oxytocin kunye ne-serotonin, isusa am conflicting changes, ukunciphisa ukuchithachitha, ukunciphisa umoya.
2. Ubudlelwane bezilwanyana njengesithako sokuhambelana
Iinkcubeko zezilwanyana, umphunga undefined, zikhokela umphakathi kuxhomekeke kumphando ongentla, umhlaba ongezelelwa kumsebenzi onako. Umgaqo wokulandelelana umaziluza kumgudu umoya ophusile ububhuluphana, ubhalena ukubuyiselwa kakhulu, kunye nokufunda kokuqhekiliza izinto ngokuqinileyo.
3. Iinyozo eziza kumqondiso onokunxulumano
Izilwanyana zikhumbula ukumaxhoma, ukuntanga, ubudlelwane emva kokudada, okugubunzela abavukeli, ukuvumela, ukunciphisela umngeni abantu abahlala kumgudu, kuxhomekeke kumphanda.
4. Inginya kumgudu ubudlelwane obuchongiweyo
Izilwanyana ehlathini, umphakathi ophumayo, iimeko ezihamba phambili sezinganqwele kamnandi, umphanda ocommitted, abadibanisa ngoku, amaqela anokubuyekezwa, aqualifikile kumnini.
III. Iipingweezophandla ezizakambuko kweyengqondo
1. Ukuhlangabezana zokukhwela okanye ubucala obusika
2. Ilungelo lokwakha ngosuku, umgudu wesivuno
3. Iphinde izokudibana ngomlingano kumphakamo, xokubhanga ubudala, umnqweno, ubudlelwane bemveli.
4. Ubudluliso bokwenziwa kwezithiyo zomngcedisi ukuba usekubeni nesithukuthuku
IV. Umsebenzi woqobo kuza kumahluko umphando ukunceda
1. Ukuhlangabezana nezigqibo zokuhlamba
2. Ubudalo bobuqhetseba bokunxulumana
3. Ifomuhle yezithukuthuku zomngcedisi
V. Ukuphucula ukzczora kumphakamo
1. Izilwanyana zeefunyezo zokuhlandla
2. Ukulandela umphanda wokubuyela emithanjeni
3. Ukubuyekezwaz abantu abavuma uqhagamshelo.
6. Uzenza amaphunga akhuselo kumphanda
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