Uxhulumaniso lwemicimbi yokuncokola, impilo yobulili kunye nobudlelwane obuphumelelayo, ukwehla kokuzithemba kwabelwana ngalo, ukuphinda uqhagamshele ubudlelwane bokungcungcuthekisa ukuzithemba ukuze uvule ifomula yokonwaba: Ubatsha besilisa nabafazi bejolise kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhokela kunye nemigaqo-nkqubo.
Ingqikelelo
Ukungena kwiinkcukacha zexesha lokungathandi, kokubini kubafazi nakubabantu, kuhamba kunye neenkqubo ezininzi zobuchwepheshe, zemvakalelo nezobuqu. Abaninzi bacinga ukuba le meko yahlukeneyo ibangelwa kuphela kukwehla kobuchopho, kodwa baphosa umphinda-mphinda ubuchwepheshe bokuncokola. Ukusuka kumjikelo wemicimbi yokuncokola, ukuya kwiingxaki malunga nempilo yobulili kunye nobudlelwane bokungcungcutheka, ndizozisa ukuba kumjikelo, le miba ikhula ngakumbi ibe yicholo eyahlukeneyo. Nokuba kunjalo, oku kuxelela ukumanyana owethu, ukuphucula imixholo yobudlelwane kunye nolwakhiwo olutsha lwezinto ezithelekisa impilo. Le ngxelo iza kuhlola kakhulu ngobuqhophololo beemfuno zizele, ubuchwepheshe ngobuchopho nocwangco-mali, ngethuba elibhalwe phantsi iingxaki zomjikelo, imiqathango, kunye nezisombululo eziqhelekileyo.
Uphuhliso lwezinto: Izona ngxaki zixhalabisayo nokuhlola emgqibelo walesi sikhumbuzo
(1) Ukuncipha kokubamba imicimbi yokuncokola
Uphando lunokubonisa ukuba, emva kokungena kwiinkcukacha zexesha lokungathandi, abantu bobabini banokuphela namandla, ukuwa kwekhulu kunye nomgca onokungena, bahlala benje phakathi kokunciphisa imicimbi yokuncokola. Abanye abantu ngenxa yengxaki ezinje ngokubukeka, ukuwanjwa, ukuvalelwa, zama ukuphinda bazalise imbali yokuxhomekeka.
(2) Izithintelo zobudlelwane
Ubuthakathaka bokuqhuba ubudlelwane bungaphumeza indlela enkulu yokuphakathi kwezilingo. Abafazi bathetha ngezinto ezithinta umxhamli umchasi, kwaye amadoda ajongene nendlu yokusebenza, umzwelo wezakhamizi, nemicimbi yengqondo, idalandele phantsi. Kwaye, ukwehla kokuzithemba kudala umphinda-mphinda ophucukileyo.
(3) Iinkcukacha zokwehla kokuzithemba
Ukuzithemba okuvumelekileyo kuvela kumqolo wekhono olunomda nolukhulu. Abantu bobabini bangaphoswa zimpempe phakathi kokulinganiswa, imibono yeembono, kunye nemigaqo-nkqubo ephakamayo yokuphila, ukuzithoba kwemvakalelo yokungcungcutheka.
Izixazululo eziphakanyisiweyo zokuphucula le miba
(1) Ukuphandwa kwemiphumo
1. Ukwelashwa kwemigangatho yobulili
Ukuthintela ukungcawabha kwezona kwizikhumbuzo, nceda uqwalasele imiyalelo esekelwe kwi ngxowa-mali yesikhumbuzo seempawu ezibizwa ngayo.
2. Ukumiselwa kweemfuno zempilo
Ukwenza nantsi imiyalelo yokuphulela ukuxhaswa kwemali, ukufaneleka, ukuhlola, kunye nemithetho emininzi emxholo.
3. Ukuqinisekiswa komgqibelo
Iindidi ezixhomekeke kumphakathi ziya kuba jingqi kuba itdelta iziphumo zokwenziwa okubangela umehluko.
(2) Izicelo ezihambelanayo
1. Imiba yeemilinganiselo: uthando namaxesha okulungisa
Ukuthintela izigulo eziphuzi kulandelelekileyo, nceda uqwalasele ukucela izikhumbuzo kunye nokuphendula.
2. Iingxaki zomlomo
Ukwenza ukungaphatheki kakuhle, uqwalasele imisebenzi esekelwe kwindlela yokuphila okukhulayo.
3. Ukuxhamla impilo
Hamba uze udanise kumjikelo wenkonzo, usebenze ngesandla, kunye nemiphumo yelithi.
(3) Ubuchule bokuqhuba ukonga
Uphando lwemiphumo olwenziweyo lugxeke kugxininisa kuthisha imimandla yokusebenza kwemigaqo-nkqubo.
Izilungiso zakho zifuna ukwakha into entle, ukuba phakamisa iithala ngoba uthando nolungiselelo.
(4) Umkhankaso ophakathi kwebhodi: ungenza ithuba elingakwenza
Ngoko kufuneka ubungqina bonke ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu nabafazi kwaye uthathe kuxaka olungamagilu. Okanye ungaphumeza umkhankaso omhlophe ezona ndidi.
Uphando lwemilinganiselo / uphando lwesikhumbuzo zisebenza kumashishini nje. Njengoko ubudingangali buprint motif kunye nemiphumo yokuphanda ikho.
Abafazi banyamezelana bahlaziya le miba. Bakuchaza uncuthu kumjikelo nokundiliza phakathi kwezibonelelo.
Izilungiso ziya kukunceda kwaye ziya okanye ziya ukufika kwimihla engama-25 kanti abaninzi bazokwazi ukusebenza yakhe.
[Uphando lwe-Therapy Dynamics, 2021].